The Reality of Monetary Dissappointment

$1400.
That is approximately how much Chris informed me I have spent on food in the last 21 days. Not eating out, not on potato chips and junk food, not even on steaks or halibut... on whole foods and herbs.
I can't even tell you how devastated I was when he told me. Keep in mind this cost was not entirely perishable food, or even really all food. It also included a seed sprouter, various containers, herbs (lots of them), a Nettie pot, ear candles (not a good idea) and ingredients for making cleaners of various sorts at home.
So this is how it started, a month ago after going from a size four to a size ten and having zero energy and being super grouchy for months I decided I needed a change. This said change developed into a plan to strictly feed my family whole unprocessed foods and save money (haha) by making as many things homemade as possible. I got the book Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon from the library and bought a book about whole foods from Amazon. And then I went crazy....
I started making everything from scratch, each meal with a protein and two vegetables, and two failed attempts at making bread. I made my own dishwasher soap, laundry detergent, bubble bath, face wash, cough syrup, and multi surface spray. At this point it affirmed my inability to half-way do anything. In both failure and success I must commit myself wholeheartedly. In a lot of ways I decided to write in my blog again because I feel like a failure. On one hand I do feel like for the last month I have provided my family with the best food I possibly could, but for just over $66 a day I could have taken them to Texas Roadhouse every day this month and saved money.
So what do I have to show for my money? I do feel better, I still wear a size ten, I'm still grumpy, and now I'm out a lot of money. I have enjoyed having a fresh smoothie for breakfast everyday and a plateful of delicious leftovers for lunch. I have not enjoyed being so busy making everything from scratch that I don't get to sit down and relax until after eleven at night.
I had considered creating a small garden of potted vegetables but I am currently having a problem keeping a potted lavender alive in a self-watering pot. Maybe this simple lifestyle was not meant for women who work a full time job. How do my parents do it? How do Chris's parents do it? On my parents behalf my mom doesn't make things from scratch and relies heavily on convenience type foods. Chris's parents have a garden and Connie bakes her own bread and does a lot of canning. What am I supposed to do now? Where do I cut costs, how do I continue to provide the best for my family without breaking the bank? Arg, I'm so upset even the pirate is coming out.